Relationships
Not a Movie
You have found ‘the one’ and you think that it should be plain sailing from now on. But try not to forget that this is the real world and not a movie.
The Expectation
You grow up watching the movies where they have a bit of a struggle and a few bumps along the way but then they find ‘the one’ and everything falls into place and they live happily ever after.
Or that is what you imagine, even though you never saw the rest of their lives, the movie just ended on a high.
What You Get
Then you expect your life to be like a movie too, but it is not…not even close…and you feel disappointed? Again remember that life is not a movie and even the couples that look like they have the perfect relationship rarely actually do.
There are going to be challenges along the way, all relationships have them. We don’t all have the same challenges but we all have challenges.
Not the Same
Remember that no two relationships are the same. It’s all too easy to compare our relationship with others and find faults in ours.
As no two people are the same, we cannot possibly expect our relationships to be the same as other peoples.
What works for your relationship with your partner won’t work for others and vice versa.
Try and think of what you like about your relationship. Focus on the good parts and try and enhance them, or at least try not to loose them.
Not Everything
Another thing to bear in mind is that its okay for your partner not to be everything you need in life. Think about what they bring to your life and try to appreciate it.
While having a partner can be a important source of support and companionship, it’s important to be aware that they cannot fulfil every need or role in your life. Turning to different people for various aspects of your life can provide you with a diverse support network, with varied perspectives, emotional support, and practical assistance, that one person alone might not be able to offer.
Support Network
Finding a support network rather than focusing on one person can help alleviate some of the pressure you put on your partner and your relationship and allow you to focus more on the areas where your partner does support you and not on the areas where they are unable to. It is beneficial in lots of ways to build a well-rounded support system.
If you take some of the pressure away it enables you to just enjoy your time together more and feel happier in your relationship. This can help keep the spark alive.
Nobody is Perfect
On a final note, remember that nobody is perfect and expecting anybody to be is just going to lead to disappointment. However, this does not mean you should settle for second best if you feel you are not being treated properly. It can be a difficult balance to find.